My Approach
I'm here to help you wade through the muck, figure out what's really going on underneath the surface, and develop a plan to start feeling better.
Most people who come to see me are angry, anxious, overwhelmed, depressed, or stuck. They're trying really hard to be good parents, good partners, good employees, and good people—but they feel like they're failing.
The messages running through their heads sound something like:
"I'm an asshole."
"I'm a terrible parent."
"Why can't I get my hit together?"
"How did I end up here?"
Here's the thing: you're probably not a bad person.
You're likely caught in a loop of thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that isn't working anymore.
Maybe you're snapping at your kids. Maybe you're avoiding difficult conversations. Maybe you're lying awake at night replaying everything you said wrong that day. Whatever it looks like, we'll start by figuring out what's happening and why.
Together we'll look at the stories you're telling yourself, the emotions underneath them, and the habits keeping you stuck. Then we'll work on creating a little space between what you feel and how you react.
That space changes everything.
My Approach
I use a trauma-informed approach based on Dr. Judith Herman's Three Stages of Trauma Recovery.
In plain English, that means we don't jump straight into the deep end.
First, we focus on understanding what's happening right now and building tools to help you feel more grounded and in control. Once you have those tools, we can explore deeper issues if that's something you want or need to do. Eventually, the focus shifts from surviving to creating the life you actually want to live.
Therapy isn't about becoming a different person.
It's about becoming less trapped by old patterns and more intentional about how you want to show up in your life.
Whether you want to feel less anxious, stop yelling at your kids, work through trauma, improve your relationships, or simply become a better version of yourself, it starts with being willing to embrace the suck.
I'll help you through the rest.